Don’t Waste Time On Love
Today is a public (banking) holiday in SA named Women’s Day to celebrate the many contributions women make. While I am trying to catch up (weekends are for catching up) my thoughts and fingers drift across some new territories. Then this lovely book “Dream for an Insomniac” by Kelly Moran comes up and I know exactly what I have to say. Here is a quote from the book:
“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life. Love shouldn’t be one of them.”
Wow. She wasn’t promising it will last forever. She isn’t saying it won’t hurt like crazy when it is over all too soon. But she is saying that when you love you should love with everything in your heart.
It makes sense to me. While I might live in an imperfect world with an imperfect body, God gave me a heart of 24 carat pure gold, made after His own light. There is no reason to deplete that purity on somebody who doesn’t return your love fully, even if it will only be for a short time (and we often don’t know before it is time to say good bye).
Reminds me a little of the other saying that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. If he/she is in your life for a reason, learn the lesson and let go, move on, don’t dwell. If he/she only loves you for a season, enjoy the sunshine and cherish the memories for they will bring warmth to your heart during the winter. And if it is for a lifetime, be happy that you have somebody that puts up with your rubbish that long. Either way, love completely.
And so my message to all the ladies out there today is simple: When love knocks on your door, allow it in. An ounce of pure gold love for a reason or a season is more precious than tons of wasted soil and rock for a lifetime. And so the title of this post should be modified to read: “Don’t waste time on ‘half-hearted’ love”.